When you look into a mirror, who do you see?

Current you? Or a mere reflection of what you were supposed to be?

Over this past weekend, I’ve heard one question repeatedly; ‘What do you do?’

My immediate answer? I smile and say ‘Oh, I’m a Creative! I’m also in the HR Space as well as a student.’

In some cases, the conversation went on further to include why I chose to study Psychology and what I plan to do with my degree.

You know what question wasn’t asked that I realized I badly needed an answer to?

It’s ‘ Who are you?’

My first instinct would be to rattle off my name and positions as well as what I do but when I truly ask myself this, what answer do I have to give? What answer have I got that truly explains who I truly am?

Sometimes, I look back at my life and wonder what my life would look like I went to secondary school in England. If Daddy didn’t die when he did. If Covid never happened and I wrote the WAEC in time for early admissions. If ALU hadn’t changed the studies structure and I could have just gone on to study Psy there. If I wasn’t born at all.

I realize all these ‘Ifs’ could impact me, friends or my family in different ways. But you know what? If there was a way to go back in time and make even one change, I wouldn’t do it. I mean, obviously, I’d love to live with my entire family again and celebrate all my wins in person with them but this is how life is and instead of asking If? Make the best of your situation and do yourself own better.

I’ve been dealing with a lot of changes recently and having a couple wins. However, I’m terrified of what the future brings and I have so many doubts. I recently stepped into a new role and while I have huge shoes to fill, I’m scared I’d disappoint everyone and not measure up. But you know what?

If a bast**d, orphan, son of a wh**e could grow up to be a founding father, to write 51 letters in six months defending the new constitution and fight for his country, who are you not to do great things? (Last Hamilton mention, I promise)

So, while I’m yet to find proper answers to my own question, I ask you one last time, Who are you?

I leave you with these words and remind you that I’m rooting for you and having high hopes always. Remember, if you have no fans in this world, I’m probably dead.

This week, I leave you with a song special to my heart and I hope it does what it did for me for you as well.

I hope when you have some time, you’re able to listen to The Script’s Hall of Fame.

Until we meet again friend. ‘Tis Adieu now, but not for long.

Your favourite, funny friend,

Iceyy❤️

P.S. Please, send me emails if you want to. I’d love to read your thoughts and learn more about who you are too!